We spend so much of adulthood trying to “heal our inner child,” but here’s the truth, we shouldn’t have to. If we were taught from the start to honour our authentic selves instead of being drowned out

Let’s be real for a second…so many of us are sitting here as adults doing “inner child work.” We’re unpacking trauma, breaking down old beliefs, healing wounds that were planted in us before we even had a choice. And while the healing is powerful (and necessary), here’s the thing: we shouldn’t have to be doing this level of repair in the first place.

Imagine if, as kids, we were taught to actually listen to ourselves. To honour what our authentic inner voice was saying instead of being drowned out by systems, rules, and expectations. We wouldn’t have grown up believing we were “too much” or “not enough.” We wouldn’t have had to unlearn the fear, the scarcity mindset, or the idea that our dreams weren’t realistic.

That’s why I don’t just work on healing my own inner child, I also have these conversations with my children. I ask them: “What does your inner child wish for right now?” or “What feels good to your soul?” And when we talk like that, something shifts. Not only do they learn to trust themselves, but I get to model what it looks like to show up authentically and regulate our nervous systems together… this is something I am focusing on after a crazy 2025.

This is where generational cycles actually start to break. Because if my children grow up knowing their voice matters, that their dreams are valid, and that they don’t have to shrink to fit into broken systems; then they won’t be sitting at 30, 40, or 50 years old trying to heal wounds that should never have been there in the first place.

And that right there is my purpose. To stop the passing down of fear, depression, scarcity, addiction, and silence. To challenge the systems that convinced us that survival was enough. Because thriving instead of surviving and living as your authentic self, is not just for some of us, it’s for all of us.